Across the United States, 75% of domestic violence-related deaths occur after a victim takes steps to separate from her abuser.
As batters feel the loss of control over their partners, they frantically multiply efforts to regain power- sometimes resorting to desperate measures. Leaving an abusive relationship puts a victim, her children, family, friends, co-workers and even innocent bystanders at increased risk for serious injuries and death.
Preventing the escalation of domestic violence after separation involves a variety of community helpers. Law enforcement, the courts, social service workers, health care providers and domestic violence advocates must work cooperatively with a victim to assess the danger of her situation and, in some cases, develop and execute a safety plan.
If you or someone you know is planning to leave an abuser or take any legal financial steps to separate, you must plan for safety. Address safety concerns by developing a comprehensive safety plan, including survival strategies at home, at the workplace and in court or public places. Safety plans should be individualized, always taking into account the victim's age, marital status, children (if any), geographic location, and resources available such as transportation, shelter, and finances.
Call Wings of Hope Family Crisis Services at 405.624.3020 for assistance in developing a safety plan.